We moved in with my mom a little over a year ago at the request of one of her doctors. In some ways, it was an upgrade for us. We moved from a 1200-square foot ranch to a two-story, 1800-square foot home
With two children, our home was nice yet lived in. My mother's home is gorgeous -- the loft, the Chinese decor, the plush furniture -- and I'm lost in its beauty. Nothing feels like ME.
I kept reminding myself that the arrangement was a temporary one; that once my house sold, we'd make plans to move into a space that would more comfortably accomodate all of us. But this holding cell mindset is the equivalent of living in boxes because you plan to move out...someday. It doesn't feel good.
I'm challenging myself to create sacred spaces for ME in HER home -- nothing bold and sweeping, but tiny changes that express my personality and creativity.
Making it sacred starts with taking a mini-tour, surveying every room, corner, closet...everything, and asking questions:
- How do I feel being in this space? Am I tense, too hot, comfortable?
- What could improve the look and feel of this room? Rearranging furniture, painting, adding photographs?
- What colors would look great?
- Does a theme for this space come to mind?
I think I have an idea where to start. I'll let you know.
Cool beans! Looks good! I started doing this about a year ago. My mom wigged a bit when Buddhas and temple bells started to show up. But it's very calming to me, and I really feel as if I live in a home that reflects who I am, and that makes me want to rush to get back there at the end of the day.
Posted by: G. | May 07, 2009 at 10:54 AM
No matter the circumstances moving in with parents when one is grown-up is always a bit difficult and trying. When I was newly divorced with 2 little kids I had to make that move. We knew it was temporary but it was never completely comfortable. And I had grown up in that house!
I did small things to make part of it "ours." Mostly with pictures and pillows. The kids got to use their own beds sheets so it made them more comfortable.
I think it's wonderful you can be there for your Mom. Hopefully you can move soon to a place nearby.
Posted by: Becky | May 07, 2009 at 12:48 PM
G and Becky, you both are way ahead of me. It is difficult. I'm planning to start with a small bathroom, make some towels, do some decouppage on rocks. I'll write about my progress.
Posted by: L'Tanya | May 12, 2009 at 02:53 PM
I just returned from my 87 year old mother-in-laws home. It is very standard for her age...comfy, unpretentious...grandma palette. Sweet.
For me it is a relief to have no connection to the creation of it. I really relax there because there is no burden of expression or identity.
Maybe you can let it be a "distinction" for you as you ask what you really want.....and a free spot on your life gameboard....for now. xoxo
Posted by: Kelee Katillac | May 13, 2009 at 04:41 PM